From my perspective, when trying to provide advice to
the lovelorn, which is often what psychic reading
degenerates into, internet romance is a dangerous and
disappointing gambit. Now that 40% of North
American homes have computers, I expect that in spite
of the horror stories that are circulating, people will still
be trying to find that "special" person from the comfort
of the chair in front of their PC.
Everyone seems pretty savvy about not giving out
personal information and being wary of philandering
hopefuls, BUT after conversing for months with
someone in text via chat rooms or e-mail, you do get a
sense of who that person is. Usually the "who" is how
the person wants you to perceive them. People in
general are good at "reading" what other people wish
for or wish to hear. Many people are very good at
taking your ideas and reflecting them back to you as
though they are their own. Of course you are going to
agree with them then! Pictures are exchanged, because
that has become easy and cheap. Nobody said it had to
be a picture of you at your current age either.
Eventually telephone numbers are exchanged. Then the
text chats turn to real time phone calls, in spite of the cost,
because of course that nice guy is never conveniently
geographically located. Instead of anticipating a cyber
meeting, the relationship grows to anticipating that phone
call. If the conversation goes well, as in no in spouses
are answering the phone on the other end causing
complex excuse making, then the two decide to meet.
Often expensive and badly needed items arrive as gifts
as well! Obviously the cost for all this is shared or the
more affluent party pays the shot.
Lets back up a bit here. Say for example that the
couple has been conversing for 4 to 6 months, at that
point they are probably both in love with their own idea
or notion of the other person. That notion has less to do
with reality than with their own wishful thinking. They
have constructed an image of this romantic prospect that
will be difficult to revise or destroy.
So plans to meet are made and anticipated. Anticipation
is one of the most intense emotional states of human
feeling. By the time that boy meets that girl they are
both bursting with positive expectations. They are both
completely on their best behavior, and they do have the
details of their previous exchanges by which to fuel the
conversation. With such intense desires flowing through
their veins it is highly likely that the anticipated romantic
encounter will unfold pretty quickly. And you betcha, if
they both have at least normal responses in that
department, "they are in love".
Here is where the psychic reader comes in. Next step
in this net romance is obviously to see one another more
often, which means one or the other has to give up
established employment, residence and support
networks and relocate. I respond to hundreds of such
queries each year, "is this going to work out?"
Even when things look good astrologically between
such a couple, the reality of 24/7 is quite a different
matter than joyously anticipated intermittent contact.
The things that other person didn't want you to know
about them finally surface. Due to the intensity of the
anticipation, oftener than not completely incompatible
people are thinking of rearranging their lives for one
another. 100% for sure is that there will be
disappointments, because no one can live up to the
dream image that you construct for yourself of the
perfect partner.
My best advice here is to go back to the beginning.
Think about why someone is looking for love in
cyberspace rather than their own real world. If they
are such a great guy or gal, what has isolated them
from the prospects in their area? They isolated
themselves of course. If someone can’t establish
good working relationships in their own real world, it
is going to be virtually impossible to establish a healthy
relationship with a cyber pal who suddenly is a reality
on their doorstep, expecting to be around for good.
More of my unsolicited advice: please don’t make
life-altering decisions based on cyber friendships or
romance. If there is a difficulty with relationships
available in your daily life, a much wiser decision would
be to understand what is misfiring and work to correct
that glitch in how you are meeting or dealing with other
people in life.
Just my 2 cents, but honestly this advice could save
someone thousands of dollars. Have fun with your cyber
friends, take them at face value, develop cyber support
networks, but remember your wishes are affecting your
perceptions when using the computer and for the sake
of your well being, don’t let your emotions flow through
a machine.
